Respecting Boundaries

boundaries , happiness , mental health , relationship , safety , society , toxic , toxic relationship

Bug In Your Ear

I might not want a hug today. But I might want one tomorrow. I might not want to talk about one thing, but am eager to talk about something else. I might not want to visit every week, or call every day, or even hear about certain things. And that’s okay, those are my boundaries and they exist for reason.


What are boundaries exactly?

If we’re going to go through the time to figure out how we should respect boundaries (and how and why we don’t) we might as well take a moment to understand what boundaries are.

Boundaries are the invisible lines that separate a person from a person but more importantly than that, they are rules we set for others that keep us feeling comfortable and safe. They are our ways to teach people what is acceptable with us and what is not. Because these are individual…

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Learning to enjoy time alone

alone, alone time, happiness, mcdonalds, mental health, my own happiness, self love, self worth, time, time to myself

Walking on broken glass

I find this very hard and I crave the company of others. This week is half term, and each one of my plans has fallen through. So I’m currently sat in my local mcdonalds alone trying to enjoy this time.

I see benefits of it, I really do. Yet, I still miss someone else being there. Even if you just sit in silence with them, it’s comforting to me.

So far today, I have cleared out 3 bin bags of clothes, been to the dy cleaners, been to the charity shop, donated some bedding to rspca and put my car in to be valeted, hence why I am at mcdonalds as I’m waiting for it to be done.

See, I feel to enjoy time alone, I need to love myself, which I don’t. I know my boyfriend will ask me later if I’m going to the gym, and I know…

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WordPress – The Final Frontier

Author, Blog Writer, Final Frontier, Fun, Health, Inspiration, mental health, Online Writing, Publications, submissions, Thankful, WordPress, Writing

mtaggartwriter

Occasionally I receive emails from fellow bloggers. I find it heartwarming. When I nearly lost Megan, a number of you reached out to me. The support I was given by my peers within this WordPress platform was touching and I needed it.

I have no choice but to write. If I don’t, I am not well. My first post on WordPress was this, “Test.” I clicked publish. I literally had zero clue what WordPress was, or what would happen. I was shocked when a few people ‘liked’ that first post. I didn’t realize it was actually ‘live’ and viewable, not just on WordPress, but for the entire internet world.

After the first year of writing on here, I happily admit that I had this thought, “To what end?” I asked myself what was the point of doing this. I thought about this for a few weeks and the answer became…

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Stepping back from social media

cell phone addiction, fam, family, Social media

Supermomgetsfit

I don’t know when the shift happened.

The shift when social media became a constant…

An addiction.

When we started posting every detail of our lives. Our opinions. Our disgust with other people’s opinions. The judgement. The shaming. Fuck, kids can’t even have a snow day without it turning into an all out Facebook war. Pictures of our kids, our trips, our families, out meals. Constantly checking for an update. Looking for that new notification.

We no longer needed to have relationships with anyone because you can already see everything going on in their lives. What’s the point of meeting up if I already know you got a promotion, your mom is sick, and you’re going to Mexico next month? It leaves people bombarded with updates, yet feeling completely alone. We are missing real connections. The ones where we sit and actually talk about your mom who is in the…

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gal pals are the best

friends, fun, journal

It is so important for you to have a good group of friends! They carry you through the hard times, but most importantly they are there even when you don’t necessarily need them.

I recently read about a study that was done by a group of researchers from the University of Oxford. The investigation revealed the necessary steps that a woman needs to take to achieve happiness in all aspects of her life. The study discovered the basis would be in women feeling free to go out with their girlfriends at least twice a week. The article went on to explain the why behind the research done and all the scientific facts that prove it.

Honestly, I couldn’t agree more! In my opinion, laughter and quality time is the best medicine! This last week has been hard, but I have my girlfriends come right along side me and bring me up…

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Learning How to Grow

fulfillness, happiness, Life

Saturday Night Wine

Growing up, my mother always used to say “life’s a bitch and then you die”.  I know, doesn’t that inspire positivity? The only thing my mother seemed to be passionate about was attempting to be the perfect daughter, mother and wife.  And she was miserable all of the time.  As I started to become more independent in life and pulled away from my family a bit, my mother seemed to build up the time we did share together, to the point where it was impossible for me to ever please her.  And, as a result, she became despondent, disappointed.  The pressure became too much for me and I pushed further and further away from her.

Slowly, I am learning I cannot depend on anyone for my own happiness, just as my mother couldn’t depend on any of us for her happiness.  I think this is a very hard lesson…

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