Learning to enjoy time alone

alone, alone time, happiness, mcdonalds, mental health, my own happiness, self love, self worth, time, time to myself

Walking on broken glass

I find this very hard and I crave the company of others. This week is half term, and each one of my plans has fallen through. So I’m currently sat in my local mcdonalds alone trying to enjoy this time.

I see benefits of it, I really do. Yet, I still miss someone else being there. Even if you just sit in silence with them, it’s comforting to me.

So far today, I have cleared out 3 bin bags of clothes, been to the dy cleaners, been to the charity shop, donated some bedding to rspca and put my car in to be valeted, hence why I am at mcdonalds as I’m waiting for it to be done.

See, I feel to enjoy time alone, I need to love myself, which I don’t. I know my boyfriend will ask me later if I’m going to the gym, and I know…

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Happiness Is Success

connection, cooperation, development, environment, expectations, happiness, Humanity, Success

Entering The Force-Field

Question: Do you agree with the adage ‘happiness is success’?

Answer: Yes, Happiness is the sign, the “jackpot” of success.

Happiness is a positive feedback, result of fulfilling an all-important goal, fulfilling a great yearning, need.

And since we are social, emotional creatures, the greatest possible happiness we achieve is when we purposefully build positive, mutually supportive and mutually fulfilling Human interconnections in special, closed environments, “laboratories”. There methodically everybody aims at bringing happiness only to the others, above and despite our inherently selfish, egoistic, subjective inclinations using a special, practical educational method.

Then the vibrating tension, resistance in between instinctive egoism and attempted, fulfilled love and bestowal towards others magnifies the happiness achieved, makes us infinitely more sensitive to the positive emotional impressions we receive from our connections!

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Family Time is Great, But Date Nights Are Needed

anniversary , goals , happiness , love , marriage , quality time , relationships

The "F" Word Principles

When Mike and I first started our relationship, we were inseparable and always enjoyed each other’s company. We’d always go out to eat together ( we immediately made the connection that we both loved food! ), and we had long enjoyable conversations about anything and everything. I still laugh whenever I think about one of the very first dates we had. I had invited him to go with me to the AMA’s, and this would be the first time we would be in the car together for over an hour drive before arriving at the Nokia Theater. I was concerned ( more like freaking out ) about what we would talk about the whole way there. I mean, that was a long drive! What if we had nothing to talk about? What if it became awkward? I don’t handle awkward very well! If this turned out to be a disaster…

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The pain Of Expressing Our Needs Versus Not Expressing Our Needs

Better relationship, Better Relationships, communication, life style, self improvement

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Most of us has not t been taught on how to express  our  needs also most of us has never been taught to think in terms of our needs , I can recall many  time that i think a friend or my mom should  automatically  understand my  needs and  when she  doesnt  i have a build of anger compounded inside me .  .

As i started learning how to communicate , things get  easier thou im a very direct person in term of saying what i need but this time around without violent . Most times  when we talk about what we need rather than want , we tend to get what  we want . There is a huge different between  needs and making a request .

We need to express what we need rather than talking about what is wrong .  , and the moment we do that …

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Happy or Right

argumentation, buddhism, current events, facts, happiness, marriage, psychology today

Ritual de lo Predictable

I
read this old article in Psychology Today
entitled: “Would
you rather be right or would you rather be happy

which discusses control and how you can be a slave to this need to control
things. It hurts you as well as those around you. It also includes a citation
from The Tao Te Ching, verses
74
,
which I will paraphrase here:

Being in control is like trying to
take the master craftsman’s place: You take up his tools, you’ll probably get cut.

OK.

Trying to control things is bad,
yes; and hurting others, even if unintentional, is bad, too—Of Course. But my problem, with the article at least,
is that the narrative running through the text is about a husband who wants to be right and a wife who will
not back down. He is the heavy in this situation, illustrated perfectly by
their going…

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Dating Is So Hard!!

African girls don’t ask guys out, Dating, happiness, Lonely, Love, Single life, TOE

TOE's Diary

Been wondering why dating has to be so hard for me when every one else seems to be having it easy. I always feel hyperventilated when I get the question “are you seeing someone?”

I recently asked my friends to tell me why I am single. Majority of them said I don’t go out enough. While others said I don’t put myself out there enough. As a result they set me on a couple of blind dates (I didn’t like) and they signed me up for dating apps (majority of the people I met there were either creepos or misfits) so I took down the apps.

I decided to do things differently 6 months ago when I moved to a new city. I challenged myself to ask 3 guys in the new city out on a date. This is something I always said I was never going to do when…

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The Need for Relationships?

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In this modern day society, being single is not a permanent state, but something to be seen as temporary, with an end goal of becoming a part of a relationship. A boy and a girl enter a coffee shop and the automatic assumption of their relation to one another is as boyfriend and girlfriend. In contrast, two “straight” appearing pairs of men and women enter this same coffee shop, and they’re just friends meeting for a drink. Our perception on the world and the society that we live in automatically pairs men and women together as a couple, living up to the expectations that two people must be together. How could both possibly be single and only be friends? It is almost laughable. But what does society seemingly hold against the idea of being single – the term itself being a social construct to differentiate between a romantic and platonic…

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