Words that hurt

bereavement , death , grief , meaning , mourning , purpose , soulmates , widowed

richwalks

Words that hurt: happiness, joy.

Phrases that hurt: ‘Rich would want you to be happy’, ‘I hope you’re enjoying…’, ‘May you find peace’, ‘this will help you heal’, ‘try and find something to smile about today’.

Phrases that help: ‘tell me about Rich’, ‘don’t hold it in’, ‘just be you’, ‘you are hurting’, ‘I wish I’d known him’.

And the best way to ask after someone experiencing profound bereavement? – ‘how is today?’ If you ask ‘how are you?’, then frankly you’re not really thinking about the person in front of you or at the other end of the phone. How the f*** do you think I am? Is the way we want to respond. But instead, of late, I just don’t bother responding at all. Because if they can’t imagine what the devastation of loss like this might feel like, and I haven’t got the energy to explain, even…

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WordPress – The Final Frontier

Author, Blog Writer, Final Frontier, Fun, Health, Inspiration, mental health, Online Writing, Publications, submissions, Thankful, WordPress, Writing

mtaggartwriter

Occasionally I receive emails from fellow bloggers. I find it heartwarming. When I nearly lost Megan, a number of you reached out to me. The support I was given by my peers within this WordPress platform was touching and I needed it.

I have no choice but to write. If I don’t, I am not well. My first post on WordPress was this, “Test.” I clicked publish. I literally had zero clue what WordPress was, or what would happen. I was shocked when a few people ‘liked’ that first post. I didn’t realize it was actually ‘live’ and viewable, not just on WordPress, but for the entire internet world.

After the first year of writing on here, I happily admit that I had this thought, “To what end?” I asked myself what was the point of doing this. I thought about this for a few weeks and the answer became…

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gal pals are the best

friends, fun, journal

It is so important for you to have a good group of friends! They carry you through the hard times, but most importantly they are there even when you don’t necessarily need them.

I recently read about a study that was done by a group of researchers from the University of Oxford. The investigation revealed the necessary steps that a woman needs to take to achieve happiness in all aspects of her life. The study discovered the basis would be in women feeling free to go out with their girlfriends at least twice a week. The article went on to explain the why behind the research done and all the scientific facts that prove it.

Honestly, I couldn’t agree more! In my opinion, laughter and quality time is the best medicine! This last week has been hard, but I have my girlfriends come right along side me and bring me up…

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Why it’s okay to let go of people as you grow

arguments, change, friends, Friendships, growing up, happy

Tales of the Twenty-Somethings

I’ll be the first to admit that change is something I find difficult. Perhaps the fact that I’ve known most of my best friends for over a decade (and I’ve become so used to their constant support, advice and friendship in that time) plays a role in this. I enjoy meeting new people and forming new relationships, however I have become very accustomed to knowing my closest friends will always be there. And I am so very lucky for that.

I find the concept of people growing apart a scary one, because I’m used to sharing my memories of being ten years old with the same girls I’ll meet up for cocktails with now. Even though I’ll always be grateful for that, I’m starting to become aware of the fact that people do change. We’ve all got to grow, mature and find our place in this world as adults, and…

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Validation Addiction

best self , faith , goals , god , happiness , inspire , joy , life , positive , spiritual , success

Modest Ramblings

Validation has become the lifeblood of our social media infested society. Almost everyone has the thirst. It is as if we can not live without a constant reminder from an outside source that we are meeting society’s high standards of ideal living. The problem with this is more often than not we are forgetting that in order to receive validation we must first give it.

I am guilty of passing over a Facebook friend’s impressive post merely because I am too dismissive to stop and validate them. Imagine if I took the time to celebrate every victory I came across. I mean truly feel excited for my neighbor’s accomplishment, leaving out envy and guilt.  I think I would feel better about life and about myself. Promoting others is a profitable business. Once you give out validation, validation is given back to you and then some.

I wonder why we crave…

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Break Bread Together

eating together, family, food, meals

Married, Mortgaged & Minivan'd

There are many studies on the importance of family meal time.   For kids and parents the social activity of having a family meal builds closeness, better eating habits, confidence and helps with academics, physical and mental health and overall well-being. My favorite quote on the importance of dining together comes from the late Anthony Bourdain:

“We know, for instance, that there is a direct, inverse relationship between frequency of family meals and social problems. Bluntly stated, members of families who eat together regularly are statistically less likely to stick up liquor stores, blow up meth labs, give birth to crack babies, commit suicide, or make donkey porn. If Little Timmy had just had more meatloaf, he might not have grown up to fill chest freezers with Cub Scout parts.” 

― Anthony Bourdain, Medium Raw: A Bloody Valentine to the World of Food and the People Who Cook 

However, in a…

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