I feel like I wasn’t supposed to change…

pvdpaige

After spending the first half of my winter break from uni still in Sunderland; due to work commitments, I finally returned back to my home in the Shire after christmas, in the new year. With many of my friends from the area already having gone back to uni for their second semester, I found myself with limited friends to see whilst I was back- many of these friends I’d not spoken to/barely spoken to for a couple of months, mainly because of me taking time to better my mental health.

Once reconnecting with some of the friends I hadn’t spoken to and having some time to take in the situation of my decision of the past months, it became apparent that there was animosity towards me for taking this time to heal and develop.

I know the story; I cut out everyone at first, I needed to space to deal…

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I choose to not overwhelm myself with being liked, and just try my best to like the things I do as honestly as I can

To set the scene, it was autumn, or fall if you want to be dramatic about the whole thing. I went to theatre school so you can guess which one lean towards.
I think my first question was

https://friendlesspod.com/2019/11/26/on-being-liked

A Friend Will Help You Move, A True Friend Will Help You Move a Body (j/k ;) )

We’ve shared countless laughs, tears, smiles, giggles, frustrations, and basically every emotion under the sun. If you can think of an emotion, we’ve been through it together. I think our time, mine and yours, would be better spent telling you the things I’ve learned from our 24 years of friendship.

Read the (short, quick + easy) full post post to learn about Katie’s 4 simple lessons — to which she adds at the end:

There are so many other things I have learned from my friendships and relationships, but I want you all to actually read this…not open it, see that it’s 15 pages long, and then hit the X button. Until my next post, I’ll just be living the Dream…

 

Availability

friendship, Life, Love, time

She is Sunshine Mixed with a Little Hurricane

Stop making yourself so available.

I cannot emphasize this enough. This extends to every person in your life. I get that it can be difficult, especially in dating. When you’re first getting to know someone, you want to spend a lot of your time with them and you end up planning things in your life around their schedule. That is not okay. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to spend time with someone. You as well as the person you’re spending a lot of your time with need to understand that you have separate lives to live that are both on different paths. Even if those paths are crossing each other for a short while or a long one.

The biggest downside about being available all the time is that people start expecting you to jump into action for them every single time. Then when you don’t, you’re made out…

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Modern Dating Sucks

dating, ghosting, relationships, tinder

Thoughts Of A NE Girl

This post is about a very recent dating experience that I had. It was one that I was very much looking forward to and that I felt was going quite well. As you’ll see from the below, I clearly misjudged this. I have changed my dates name, just out of courtesy. Not that he afforded the same to me.

Photo by Quaid Lagan on Unsplash

Back in July, I was just home from 3 weeks travelling in Rajasthan,
India. I’d had a fantastic time, met some wonderful people, seen some
extraordinary things and eaten some excellent food. But now I was home and it
was back to reality. As you do when you’re bored these days, I opened Tinder
and started swiping through, mostly uninterested because let’s be fair, it’s quite
hard to be attracted to someone that you don’t know.

Things changed and I got a little excited when…

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What to do when you find yourself falling in love with your best friend

Lifestyle, Relationship Weddings

Michael's blog

If you find yourself falling for your best friend and you don’t know what to do, the tips below are just for you.

What to do when you find yourself falling in love with your best friend [Credit Freepik]
What to do when you find yourself falling in love with your best friend [Credit Freepik]

There are things beyond our control in life – like the family we are born into, or the people we become attracted to and fall in love with.

That’s why, sometimes, our interest drifts to people we could never have, people we should never be falling for in the first instance. But matters of the heart are hardly controllable.

That’s why you find romantic interest growing between step-moms and their step-kids, between people with decades of age difference between them, and sure, people who set out to be just friends.

It's OK to be scared when you fall in love with a friend because it could be the beginning of the end of that relationship [Credit - iStock]

iStockIt’s OK to be scared when you fall in love with a friend because it could be the beginning of the…

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FRIENDSHIP​

EXPERIENCES, LIFE

lauraantoniab

Friends make up a lot of memories in our lives, can be the support system when family can’t and make up a huge part of our lives. Friends are in every department of life; work, school, University, and family. And they can make or break you at the best and worst of times. 

I have had a lot of different friendships; ones that the other person takes and takes and ones where you take without maybe realising. I have been in both of these positions where someone would expect everything from me but give me nothing back and one where I was taking advantage of the friendship. This was not a friendship I was proud of simply because of the way I acted and the fact I no longer have this friendship because I took advantage of it. It is potentially one of my regrets in life. Because of…

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