Listening isn’t enough.

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Chasing My Dreams


After rescheduling my therapist appointment due to illness and weather multiple times for over a month, I finally went to see her yesterday. Husband went with me after work so that we were able to window shop for his AR and my 9mm before dinner with some friends and enjoy a nice double date. He asked if I wanted him to come into the room with me and I thought why not, I have nothing to hide and nothing I say today he won’t have heard before. It was wonderful. Let me reiterate that, WONDERFUL.

My therapist let him know that coming into the room meant he was a part of it and not just there. We spoke about my original reason for beginning sessions with her, the miscarriages and the medication. We then moved on to my “homework” from the last session and my progress, triggers, stressors, and all…

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A Mother’s Love Knows No Distance

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The Chub Script

For me, the biggest change about going to college was leaving home. Leaving my family, my dogs, and constant presence of my parents, especially my mom.

My mom is a force of nature that is as essential to my life as air is to a bird. She is the force that taught me to love and care just as she had done for me.

Although not everyone is lucky enough to have the same relationship as me and my mom, I see the love of mothers everywhere in college.

I see it in the homemade cookies left in the common room by mothers certain that their child is wasting away on cafeteria food.

I see it in the random phone call that my friends get at all hours of the day from parents who miss them too much to wait another minute to call.

I see it in the headshots…

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The importance of Language

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Tamira Paleja

As I quote ‘If you don’t understand my silence … you will never understand my words’

My daughter Tamira has taught me that love has no language, if you want to understand and love a person there is no freakin… language barrier its the willingness to go beyond your thinking and want to understand someone who just can express.

When I am with Tamira I have no time to think anything except for her & sudd the jatapatapata language has started making sense. We exchange words with no meanings and still understand each other. Right from a 10 day old baby I have tried spending most of my time with her by just looking and reciprocating and now she does the same which is totally fun… The magic of understanding each other is beautiful and the fun times are just to precious, from getting up at 2.00 am at night…

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Relationship Separate Homes

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Random Life

I have a question… Can you be in a deep relationship with someone and livein separate homes? “I’m asking for a friend“.


Honestly, how can you keep the sparks flying if you are around each other 24/7?


Lets look at the Cons


  • you will have to explain your every move
  • Having someone energy around you all day will interfere with your own vibrations.
  • The more you guys are around each other the less you are excited to see each other.

I may be speaking from a single mind frame, but on the other hand the fact that I am single may be the reason why I am able to think outside of the box. “shrugs shoulders”.

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Respecting Boundaries

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Bug In Your Ear

I might not want a hug today. But I might want one tomorrow. I might not want to talk about one thing, but am eager to talk about something else. I might not want to visit every week, or call every day, or even hear about certain things. And that’s okay, those are my boundaries and they exist for reason.


What are boundaries exactly?

If we’re going to go through the time to figure out how we should respect boundaries (and how and why we don’t) we might as well take a moment to understand what boundaries are.

Boundaries are the invisible lines that separate a person from a person but more importantly than that, they are rules we set for others that keep us feeling comfortable and safe. They are our ways to teach people what is acceptable with us and what is not. Because these are individual…

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Learning to enjoy time alone

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Walking on broken glass

I find this very hard and I crave the company of others. This week is half term, and each one of my plans has fallen through. So I’m currently sat in my local mcdonalds alone trying to enjoy this time.

I see benefits of it, I really do. Yet, I still miss someone else being there. Even if you just sit in silence with them, it’s comforting to me.

So far today, I have cleared out 3 bin bags of clothes, been to the dy cleaners, been to the charity shop, donated some bedding to rspca and put my car in to be valeted, hence why I am at mcdonalds as I’m waiting for it to be done.

See, I feel to enjoy time alone, I need to love myself, which I don’t. I know my boyfriend will ask me later if I’m going to the gym, and I know…

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