He’s just not that into you & other revelations

blog, Amsterdam, journal

De Dutch Diaries

Sometimes he’s just not that into you. You send a text hoping for an elaborate reply on how much he misses you. Or at least any reply at all. Instead you’re left with a big fat giant ‘read’ on your Facebook messenger.

Cue social mortification.

I had a melodramatic breakdown about a week ago (which you may have caught on if you read the previous post). But I guess your 20s are just filled with existential dread and crises, one after another after another until you hit 30! I’m presuming they stop by then, right? Hopefully by the time I have my own flat in NYC,  where I will write and live a private life with my dachshund called Jimmy.

So now the emotional tidal wave has flattened out and I’m beginning an upward loop. It’s almost as if I went so far low that I’ve been catapulted to…

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Availability

friendship, Life, Love, time

She is Sunshine Mixed with a Little Hurricane

Stop making yourself so available.

I cannot emphasize this enough. This extends to every person in your life. I get that it can be difficult, especially in dating. When you’re first getting to know someone, you want to spend a lot of your time with them and you end up planning things in your life around their schedule. That is not okay. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to spend time with someone. You as well as the person you’re spending a lot of your time with need to understand that you have separate lives to live that are both on different paths. Even if those paths are crossing each other for a short while or a long one.

The biggest downside about being available all the time is that people start expecting you to jump into action for them every single time. Then when you don’t, you’re made out…

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You are not a “hero” because you love someone with a disease

disability , false pride , family , family dynamics , family dysfunction , heros , invisible illness , love , pain , pride , real love , suffering , unconditional love

DragonsandDandelions

My family always called my husband a hero because he just kept on loving me. The abuse aspect was never discussed as to him being a hero for loving me through which I’d more give him a gold star for THAT because even though I am easy to love (!!!!), It is not easy living with someone who has a trauma history even if you are as super fabulous as I am 😊. But they never cared about the trauma part he was the hero for taking care of their daughter with a disability and staying married in spite of it all!!!

My husband was put up so high on a pedastal for loving with me, taking care of me, being married to me, supporting me, JUST BECAUSE OF MY DISEASE. I can understand putting him on a pedastal because he is a straight up awesome individual! Or because he…

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What to do when you find yourself falling in love with your best friend

Lifestyle, Relationship Weddings

Michael's blog

If you find yourself falling for your best friend and you don’t know what to do, the tips below are just for you.

What to do when you find yourself falling in love with your best friend [Credit Freepik]
What to do when you find yourself falling in love with your best friend [Credit Freepik]

There are things beyond our control in life – like the family we are born into, or the people we become attracted to and fall in love with.

That’s why, sometimes, our interest drifts to people we could never have, people we should never be falling for in the first instance. But matters of the heart are hardly controllable.

That’s why you find romantic interest growing between step-moms and their step-kids, between people with decades of age difference between them, and sure, people who set out to be just friends.

It's OK to be scared when you fall in love with a friend because it could be the beginning of the end of that relationship [Credit - iStock]

iStockIt’s OK to be scared when you fall in love with a friend because it could be the beginning of the…

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FRIENDSHIP​

EXPERIENCES, LIFE

lauraantoniab

Friends make up a lot of memories in our lives, can be the support system when family can’t and make up a huge part of our lives. Friends are in every department of life; work, school, University, and family. And they can make or break you at the best and worst of times. 

I have had a lot of different friendships; ones that the other person takes and takes and ones where you take without maybe realising. I have been in both of these positions where someone would expect everything from me but give me nothing back and one where I was taking advantage of the friendship. This was not a friendship I was proud of simply because of the way I acted and the fact I no longer have this friendship because I took advantage of it. It is potentially one of my regrets in life. Because of…

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Purpose of living

life, living, meaning

Random thoughts.

What is existential crisis? It is the state where you start indulging in questions of deep thoughts like the meaning of your life, why you are living, and loose interest in everyday stuffs because you realize these has no importance. 

I believe these questions are ones that are hard and has no exact answer to which you’ll run into occasionally and temporary end with some conclusion. 

At the moment, with the experience of having lived 22 years, my conclusion is that purpose of life is to find more and more lovable people. Human beings are social beings and we need to be in a company, a community. I really think it is to find more people you feel comfortable with, find more people you love. A point to be noted is that the concept should not be equated to people we label as friends and family. Sometimes these…

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