Community Starts at Home

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Bayance

Hey girl hey. And boy.

My mom and I were talking about giving back to the community yesterday and it went something like this.

Me: My old teacher was telling me about the number of refugees that are filling the school and the recent ones that don’t know how to read and write. She wants to accommodate for everyone but it’s super hard teaching now that there are people with different levels of ability.

Mom: Ah, the new Syrians that escaped the borders. It’s definitely been tough for them.

Me: Yeah, I want to help. But I have school to attend and it’s hard tutoring because it’s a far drive. Maybe I can start with my own neighbourhood. And just volunteer and tutor math and English in the summer. A lot of the refugee parents came here to give their kids an education too but it’s hard with the language…

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Understanding Dating, Relating and Mating

advice , connection , dating , mating , online-dating , relationships , sex

Unleashing the Cougar!

I came across this article when I was doing some research for this blog (and the book behind it) about search engine terms and questions people look to have answered on the fascinating subject of dating.

It’s interesting to read of appropriate ‘phases’ in relationships, and the idea that everything has a time and a place.

I guess we imbibe this in the many social and cultural cues that surround us from the moment we enter the world, even within our own home. Our backgrounds clearly influence who we become – if we are raised in a family of over-sharers or over-relaters, that is bound to have an affect on how we interact with others, just as the opposite is true.

Having said this, a part of me rebels at the idea of ‘correct’ and ‘incorrect’ ways to go about living our lives and forming relationships. Some of the most…

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Why it’s okay to let go of people as you grow

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Tales of the Twenty-Somethings

I’ll be the first to admit that change is something I find difficult. Perhaps the fact that I’ve known most of my best friends for over a decade (and I’ve become so used to their constant support, advice and friendship in that time) plays a role in this. I enjoy meeting new people and forming new relationships, however I have become very accustomed to knowing my closest friends will always be there. And I am so very lucky for that.

I find the concept of people growing apart a scary one, because I’m used to sharing my memories of being ten years old with the same girls I’ll meet up for cocktails with now. Even though I’ll always be grateful for that, I’m starting to become aware of the fact that people do change. We’ve all got to grow, mature and find our place in this world as adults, and…

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Happiness Is Success

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Entering The Force-Field

Question: Do you agree with the adage ‘happiness is success’?

Answer: Yes, Happiness is the sign, the “jackpot” of success.

Happiness is a positive feedback, result of fulfilling an all-important goal, fulfilling a great yearning, need.

And since we are social, emotional creatures, the greatest possible happiness we achieve is when we purposefully build positive, mutually supportive and mutually fulfilling Human interconnections in special, closed environments, “laboratories”. There methodically everybody aims at bringing happiness only to the others, above and despite our inherently selfish, egoistic, subjective inclinations using a special, practical educational method.

Then the vibrating tension, resistance in between instinctive egoism and attempted, fulfilled love and bestowal towards others magnifies the happiness achieved, makes us infinitely more sensitive to the positive emotional impressions we receive from our connections!

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Me, or We? You don’t have to chose.

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Relationships are complicated. They are the most intricate designs we humans take pride in. So many variations, endless possibilities. Yet, due to this very nature relations are susceptible to damages. It takes a life to rebuild it.

When we talk about two individuals, the commitment brings them together. The trust and faith they have for each other build the foundation. On the flip side, relationships flounder when they face distrust, which, unfortunately, is quite common these days. Trust can be lost through rage, lies, violence, unethical activities, drug and alcohol abuse, and sexual infidelity. Trust is the bedrock of what makes relationships work. It is the fundamental process of love and intimacy. When trust goes, what goes with it are safety, security, respect, love, and friendship, replaced by anger, insecurity, anxiety, fear; the aggrieved person becomes like the police, the FBI, and/or the CIA. Life becomes laced with arguments, large…

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