A correction – Moving was the best thing for both of us

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The Daily Score

Changing ones living situation really does make all the difference in the world. Even though we have only been living in the new place for four nights, the impact has been drastic already. The other night, coming home from work, making a cup of tea and helping in the fixing of dinner, followed by some light cleaning, a little relaxation, some yoga and then reading in bed was just so much more calming, and relaxing than any night I can remember in months that wasn’t when I was on vacation.

The idea to relocate was not my own, it was my wife’s, and I am very grateful for that. We were both increasingly unhappy with the situation we were in, becoming more and more frustrated by the day. Something had to give, and finally it did. If I was living in the prior place on my own, I likely would…

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Listening isn’t enough.

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Chasing My Dreams


After rescheduling my therapist appointment due to illness and weather multiple times for over a month, I finally went to see her yesterday. Husband went with me after work so that we were able to window shop for his AR and my 9mm before dinner with some friends and enjoy a nice double date. He asked if I wanted him to come into the room with me and I thought why not, I have nothing to hide and nothing I say today he won’t have heard before. It was wonderful. Let me reiterate that, WONDERFUL.

My therapist let him know that coming into the room meant he was a part of it and not just there. We spoke about my original reason for beginning sessions with her, the miscarriages and the medication. We then moved on to my “homework” from the last session and my progress, triggers, stressors, and all…

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The importance of Language

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Tamira Paleja

As I quote ‘If you don’t understand my silence … you will never understand my words’

My daughter Tamira has taught me that love has no language, if you want to understand and love a person there is no freakin… language barrier its the willingness to go beyond your thinking and want to understand someone who just can express.

When I am with Tamira I have no time to think anything except for her & sudd the jatapatapata language has started making sense. We exchange words with no meanings and still understand each other. Right from a 10 day old baby I have tried spending most of my time with her by just looking and reciprocating and now she does the same which is totally fun… The magic of understanding each other is beautiful and the fun times are just to precious, from getting up at 2.00 am at night…

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Learning How to Grow

fulfillness, happiness, Life

Saturday Night Wine

Growing up, my mother always used to say “life’s a bitch and then you die”.  I know, doesn’t that inspire positivity? The only thing my mother seemed to be passionate about was attempting to be the perfect daughter, mother and wife.  And she was miserable all of the time.  As I started to become more independent in life and pulled away from my family a bit, my mother seemed to build up the time we did share together, to the point where it was impossible for me to ever please her.  And, as a result, she became despondent, disappointed.  The pressure became too much for me and I pushed further and further away from her.

Slowly, I am learning I cannot depend on anyone for my own happiness, just as my mother couldn’t depend on any of us for her happiness.  I think this is a very hard lesson…

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The Wednesday Rule: Conversations for Succesful Dating

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Dating
can have extreme highs and lows. When I take a look back on some of my
relationships that didn’t work out, I noticed one thing that they all have in
common,I was not open about my needs early in the dating process. I was
just a go with the flow type girl and most of the times things didn’t flow my
way. What I’m sharing with you today are
fourconversations that I believe we all
should have at the beginningof the dating process. These
conversations give your possible partner
an understanding of what you are looking for and what they can expect from
you.

COMMITMENT LEVEL

Withsituation-ships on the rise, dating with purpose is very important. I want you to be open and honest with the person you are dating when it comes to the type of relationship you are looking for. When my boyfriend and I started dating…

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Ever Been “Ghosted”? Here’s What to Do!

Ageing, aging, broken heart, Ghosting, happiness, moving on, relationships

Aging Happy

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The idea for the little child-ghost with the New Yawk accent was conceived in the 30’s and slowly evolved along the decades from books to comics to a cartoon show in the early 60’s. It was about a delightful ghost. A friendly ghost who wasn’t like the others. He actually wanted to make friends with people—not scare them. He wanted to help others—not hurt them. I loved the Casper cartoons, and you probably did too.

Flash forward to a term we never had to familiarize ourselves with back then—not even on Halloween when we cut three holes into our mother’s old sheets and morphed into little with trick-or-treat bags. The term “ghosting” doesn’t mean any of that today. Instead it refers to a growing phenomenon in a world that is growing increasingly less courteous.

“Ghosting” someone today, means you have an interaction with someone…

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Family Time is Great, But Date Nights Are Needed

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The "F" Word Principles

When Mike and I first started our relationship, we were inseparable and always enjoyed each other’s company. We’d always go out to eat together ( we immediately made the connection that we both loved food! ), and we had long enjoyable conversations about anything and everything. I still laugh whenever I think about one of the very first dates we had. I had invited him to go with me to the AMA’s, and this would be the first time we would be in the car together for over an hour drive before arriving at the Nokia Theater. I was concerned ( more like freaking out ) about what we would talk about the whole way there. I mean, that was a long drive! What if we had nothing to talk about? What if it became awkward? I don’t handle awkward very well! If this turned out to be a disaster…

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