Ever Been “Ghosted”? Here’s What to Do!

Ageing, aging, broken heart, Ghosting, happiness, moving on, relationships

The Psychology of Aging Happy

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The idea for the little child-ghost with the New Yawk accent was conceived in the 30’s and slowly evolved along the decades from books to comics to a cartoon show in the early 60’s. It was about a delightful ghost. A friendly ghost who wasn’t like the others. He actually wanted to make friends with people—not scare them. He wanted to help others—not hurt them. I loved the Casper cartoons, and you probably did too.

Flash forward to a term we never had to familiarize ourselves with back then—not even on Halloween when we cut three holes into our mother’s old sheets and morphed into little with trick-or-treat bags. The term “ghosting” doesn’t mean any of that today. Instead it refers to a growing phenomenon in a world that is growing increasingly less courteous.

“Ghosting” someone today, means you have an interaction with someone…

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Happiness Is Success

connection, cooperation, development, environment, expectations, happiness, Humanity, Success

Entering The Force-Field

Question: Do you agree with the adage ‘happiness is success’?

Answer: Yes, Happiness is the sign, the “jackpot” of success.

Happiness is a positive feedback, result of fulfilling an all-important goal, fulfilling a great yearning, need.

And since we are social, emotional creatures, the greatest possible happiness we achieve is when we purposefully build positive, mutually supportive and mutually fulfilling Human interconnections in special, closed environments, “laboratories”. There methodically everybody aims at bringing happiness only to the others, above and despite our inherently selfish, egoistic, subjective inclinations using a special, practical educational method.

Then the vibrating tension, resistance in between instinctive egoism and attempted, fulfilled love and bestowal towards others magnifies the happiness achieved, makes us infinitely more sensitive to the positive emotional impressions we receive from our connections!

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The pain Of Expressing Our Needs Versus Not Expressing Our Needs

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Most of us has not t been taught on how to express  our  needs also most of us has never been taught to think in terms of our needs , I can recall many  time that i think a friend or my mom should  automatically  understand my  needs and  when she  doesnt  i have a build of anger compounded inside me .  .

As i started learning how to communicate , things get  easier thou im a very direct person in term of saying what i need but this time around without violent . Most times  when we talk about what we need rather than want , we tend to get what  we want . There is a huge different between  needs and making a request .

We need to express what we need rather than talking about what is wrong .  , and the moment we do that …

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Validation Addiction

best self , faith , goals , god , happiness , inspire , joy , life , positive , spiritual , success

Modest Ramblings

Validation has become the lifeblood of our social media infested society. Almost everyone has the thirst. It is as if we can not live without a constant reminder from an outside source that we are meeting society’s high standards of ideal living. The problem with this is more often than not we are forgetting that in order to receive validation we must first give it.

I am guilty of passing over a Facebook friend’s impressive post merely because I am too dismissive to stop and validate them. Imagine if I took the time to celebrate every victory I came across. I mean truly feel excited for my neighbor’s accomplishment, leaving out envy and guilt.  I think I would feel better about life and about myself. Promoting others is a profitable business. Once you give out validation, validation is given back to you and then some.

I wonder why we crave…

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Happy or Right

argumentation, buddhism, current events, facts, happiness, marriage, psychology today

Ritual de lo Predictable

I
read this old article in Psychology Today
entitled: “Would
you rather be right or would you rather be happy

which discusses control and how you can be a slave to this need to control
things. It hurts you as well as those around you. It also includes a citation
from The Tao Te Ching, verses
74
,
which I will paraphrase here:

Being in control is like trying to
take the master craftsman’s place: You take up his tools, you’ll probably get cut.

OK.

Trying to control things is bad,
yes; and hurting others, even if unintentional, is bad, too—Of Course. But my problem, with the article at least,
is that the narrative running through the text is about a husband who wants to be right and a wife who will
not back down. He is the heavy in this situation, illustrated perfectly by
their going…

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Anxiety and Relationships

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learn to bloom

More and more people suffer with generalised anxiety disorder (GAD) these days. Like myself, many others tend to distance themselves in order to avoid being hurt or having their issues affecting those who surround us.

Being in a relationship can be a daunting thought or experience. You meet somebody new who knows nothing about you, they don’t know how you behave, act or how you think about things. You soon learn new things about one another and start to feel a connection. You start to love both the good traits and flaws of each other. However, there are times when anxiety gets the best of you. It can be days, weeks or months of feeling like you’re not sure if this was the best idea. Should I have got myself into this situation? Is this a bad time? Have they started to lose the spark or have I?

Chances are…

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very controversial thoughts on guys downgrading

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The other day I was talking to one of my guy friends about guys downgrading. The topic came up because one of my female friends hooked up with a guy from our class but she lost interest and I was saying how I feel bad for the guy because now he has no choice but to downgrade since my friend is really beautiful and amazing. He was really lucky he even got attention from her and even I was really shocked that she had a thing for him. But the thing is I feel like even if the guy downgrades, I feel like he would be happy because they are programmed to adapt, and make do with what they have. It is not that deep of an issue for them, it is more like quantity than quality for them or as long as they have something, preferably the best they…

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