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blog , dating , lifestyle

Venus Is Scorned

“I don’t even have TIME to cheat! When would I even find the time?”

This was an actual response that my (new) Ex-boyfriend used to defuse and deflect multiple times over the course of 10 years.

I am a very vulnerable person with a select few people on this Earth, and I am loyal to an extreme fault.

When I heard he had a dream, I used all of my resources and did everything in my power to make it come true. I do that for everyone that I love.

Over the last 10 years my resources have gotten him a musical performance career that he had only dreamed of since he started playing the guitar as a kid.

He got his fame and put me on the back burner, so over the last few months I saved up some money and ended it.

We ended on friendly terms, because…

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Modern Dating Sucks

dating, ghosting, relationships, tinder

Thoughts Of A NE Girl

This post is about a very recent dating experience that I had. It was one that I was very much looking forward to and that I felt was going quite well. As you’ll see from the below, I clearly misjudged this. I have changed my dates name, just out of courtesy. Not that he afforded the same to me.

Photo by Quaid Lagan on Unsplash

Back in July, I was just home from 3 weeks travelling in Rajasthan,
India. I’d had a fantastic time, met some wonderful people, seen some
extraordinary things and eaten some excellent food. But now I was home and it
was back to reality. As you do when you’re bored these days, I opened Tinder
and started swiping through, mostly uninterested because let’s be fair, it’s quite
hard to be attracted to someone that you don’t know.

Things changed and I got a little excited when…

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What to do when you find yourself falling in love with your best friend

Lifestyle, Relationship Weddings

Michael's blog

If you find yourself falling for your best friend and you don’t know what to do, the tips below are just for you.

What to do when you find yourself falling in love with your best friend [Credit Freepik]
What to do when you find yourself falling in love with your best friend [Credit Freepik]

There are things beyond our control in life – like the family we are born into, or the people we become attracted to and fall in love with.

That’s why, sometimes, our interest drifts to people we could never have, people we should never be falling for in the first instance. But matters of the heart are hardly controllable.

That’s why you find romantic interest growing between step-moms and their step-kids, between people with decades of age difference between them, and sure, people who set out to be just friends.

It's OK to be scared when you fall in love with a friend because it could be the beginning of the end of that relationship [Credit - iStock]

iStockIt’s OK to be scared when you fall in love with a friend because it could be the beginning of the…

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Listening isn’t enough.

adjusting, family, listening, personal growth, receiving, support, therapy

Chasing My Dreams


After rescheduling my therapist appointment due to illness and weather multiple times for over a month, I finally went to see her yesterday. Husband went with me after work so that we were able to window shop for his AR and my 9mm before dinner with some friends and enjoy a nice double date. He asked if I wanted him to come into the room with me and I thought why not, I have nothing to hide and nothing I say today he won’t have heard before. It was wonderful. Let me reiterate that, WONDERFUL.

My therapist let him know that coming into the room meant he was a part of it and not just there. We spoke about my original reason for beginning sessions with her, the miscarriages and the medication. We then moved on to my “homework” from the last session and my progress, triggers, stressors, and all…

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Age ain’t nothin but a number?

acceptable age gap, adventure, baggage, demanding careers, fun, good career, intimacy, kids, messy divorces, Older men, preference, privacy, younger men

The musings of a 30 something singleton

“What is an acceptable age gap”? is question that has come up repeatedly in my conversations with my friends. This is of course very personal and everybody has their own preference. My own personal view is don’t go out with anyone more than 15 years older or more than 10 years younger. Older men are very attractive because they usually have a good career, income and lifestyle and generally “know what they are doing” in dating and in the bedroom. However they may come with baggage (messy divorces, kids, demanding careers) and may be reliving a lost youth and will not necessarily want to settle down with you. A younger man usually appeals to our sense of fun and adventure, yet they may be too young to settle down and may not have much financial security. It’s not that we are expecting a guy to support us, but if he…

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