To set the scene, it was autumn, or fall if you want to be dramatic about the whole thing. I went to theatre school so you can guess which one lean towards.
I think my first question was
adulting, bumble, dating, independence, life, love, online dating, relationship, self-love, strong, tinder, woman, women, zerotohero
Let’s talk about online dating a.k.a. “the swipe life”…. *cracks neck*
To start this off, I’m not posting this article to encourage everyone to use dating apps (unless they’ll upgrade my account to premium for free hihi joke) but if you decide to try online dating please don’t blame me if things go south. Use it at your own discretion.
Online dating is simply judging people based on their looks and their bios (well only if they have one and unless you read them) and then narrowing it down to the most important question: “are you worth my time and energy?”.
I would like to talk about the PROS AND CONS OF ONLINE DATING first.
Disclaimer: These might not apply to everyone or you might disagree with me on some of the points I’ve listed and that’s totally fine cos I’m well aware that our situation differs from each other…
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blog , dating , lifestyle
“I don’t even have TIME to cheat! When would I even find the time?”
This was an actual response that my (new) Ex-boyfriend used to defuse and deflect multiple times over the course of 10 years.
I am a very vulnerable person with a select few people on this Earth, and I am loyal to an extreme fault.
When I heard he had a dream, I used all of my resources and did everything in my power to make it come true. I do that for everyone that I love.
Over the last 10 years my resources have gotten him a musical performance career that he had only dreamed of since he started playing the guitar as a kid.
He got his fame and put me on the back burner, so over the last few months I saved up some money and ended it.
We ended on friendly terms, because…
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dating, ghosting, relationships, tinder
This post is about a very recent dating experience that I had. It was one that I was very much looking forward to and that I felt was going quite well. As you’ll see from the below, I clearly misjudged this. I have changed my dates name, just out of courtesy. Not that he afforded the same to me.
Back in July, I was just home from 3 weeks travelling in Rajasthan,
India. I’d had a fantastic time, met some wonderful people, seen some
extraordinary things and eaten some excellent food. But now I was home and it
was back to reality. As you do when you’re bored these days, I opened Tinder
and started swiping through, mostly uninterested because let’s be fair, it’s quite
hard to be attracted to someone that you don’t know.
Things changed and I got a little excited when…
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Lifestyle, Relationship Weddings
If you find yourself falling for your best friend and you don’t know what to do, the tips below are just for you.
There are things beyond our control in life – like the family we are born into, or the people we become attracted to and fall in love with.
That’s why, sometimes, our interest drifts to people we could never have, people we should never be falling for in the first instance. But matters of the heart are hardly controllable.
That’s why you find romantic interest growing between step-moms and their step-kids, between people with decades of age difference between them, and sure, people who set out to be just friends.
iStockIt’s OK to be scared when you fall in love with a friend because it could be the beginning of the…
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30s, commitment, love, relationships, single life
As a single girl in her 30s, I have to constantly battle the internal and external pressures to settle down and commit to a life of misery. Oops! I mean stability. My bad….
It’s not that I don’t want to get married. I do, someday, to the right person. But here’s the thing about me. The right person for me is not the person who wants a relationship. My dude, if he exists, is not going to send me a “Good morning beautiful” text every single day. He’s not going to dote on me. He’s not going to try to impress or please me. And, he’s certainly not the person who’s looking to settle down. No, no. My guy, wherever he is, if he even exists, he’s the guy who does his thing. He’s the guy who loves me passionately but not possessively. He’s the guy that doesn’t care if…
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adjusting, family, listening, personal growth, receiving, support, therapy
After rescheduling my therapist appointment due to illness and weather multiple times for over a month, I finally went to see her yesterday. Husband went with me after work so that we were able to window shop for his AR and my 9mm before dinner with some friends and enjoy a nice double date. He asked if I wanted him to come into the room with me and I thought why not, I have nothing to hide and nothing I say today he won’t have heard before. It was wonderful. Let me reiterate that, WONDERFUL.
My therapist let him know that coming into the room meant he was a part of it and not just there. We spoke about my original reason for beginning sessions with her, the miscarriages and the medication. We then moved on to my “homework” from the last session and my progress, triggers, stressors, and all…
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