It’s a Match!

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ARIANNE

Let’s talk about online dating a.k.a. “the swipe life”…. *cracks neck*

To start this off, I’m not posting this article to encourage everyone to use dating apps (unless they’ll upgrade my account to premium for free hihi joke) but if you decide to try online dating please don’t blame me if things go south. Use it at your own discretion.

Online dating is simply judging people based on their looks and their bios (well only if they have one and unless you read them) and then narrowing it down to the most important question: “are you worth my time and energy?”.

I would like to talk about the PROS AND CONS OF ONLINE DATING first.

Disclaimer: These might not apply to everyone or you might disagree with me on some of the points I’ve listed and that’s totally fine cos I’m well aware that our situation differs from each other…

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Modern Dating Sucks

dating, ghosting, relationships, tinder

Thoughts Of A NE Girl

This post is about a very recent dating experience that I had. It was one that I was very much looking forward to and that I felt was going quite well. As you’ll see from the below, I clearly misjudged this. I have changed my dates name, just out of courtesy. Not that he afforded the same to me.

Photo by Quaid Lagan on Unsplash

Back in July, I was just home from 3 weeks travelling in Rajasthan,
India. I’d had a fantastic time, met some wonderful people, seen some
extraordinary things and eaten some excellent food. But now I was home and it
was back to reality. As you do when you’re bored these days, I opened Tinder
and started swiping through, mostly uninterested because let’s be fair, it’s quite
hard to be attracted to someone that you don’t know.

Things changed and I got a little excited when…

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Listening isn’t enough.

adjusting, family, listening, personal growth, receiving, support, therapy

Chasing My Dreams


After rescheduling my therapist appointment due to illness and weather multiple times for over a month, I finally went to see her yesterday. Husband went with me after work so that we were able to window shop for his AR and my 9mm before dinner with some friends and enjoy a nice double date. He asked if I wanted him to come into the room with me and I thought why not, I have nothing to hide and nothing I say today he won’t have heard before. It was wonderful. Let me reiterate that, WONDERFUL.

My therapist let him know that coming into the room meant he was a part of it and not just there. We spoke about my original reason for beginning sessions with her, the miscarriages and the medication. We then moved on to my “homework” from the last session and my progress, triggers, stressors, and all…

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Age ain’t nothin but a number?

acceptable age gap, adventure, baggage, demanding careers, fun, good career, intimacy, kids, messy divorces, Older men, preference, privacy, younger men

The musings of a 30 something singleton

“What is an acceptable age gap”? is question that has come up repeatedly in my conversations with my friends. This is of course very personal and everybody has their own preference. My own personal view is don’t go out with anyone more than 15 years older or more than 10 years younger. Older men are very attractive because they usually have a good career, income and lifestyle and generally “know what they are doing” in dating and in the bedroom. However they may come with baggage (messy divorces, kids, demanding careers) and may be reliving a lost youth and will not necessarily want to settle down with you. A younger man usually appeals to our sense of fun and adventure, yet they may be too young to settle down and may not have much financial security. It’s not that we are expecting a guy to support us, but if he…

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Romance Vs Social Media

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The Love List

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Has social media led to the downfall of romantic gestures? Instead of sending flowers we send DM’s and instead of writing someone a heartfelt note, we comment fire emojis under the selfie we like the look of … doesn’t scream romance to me!

Where can we expect our meet cute to happen if we’re all so scared of approaching people in real life?

Meet Cute: a scene in which the two people who will form a future romantic couple meet for the first time.

‘Playing’ Tinder is our latest boredom buster. One of the many dating apps we forget about until we realise we haven’t had any easily accessible attention for a while. We post half naked pictures onto our Instagram feeds because we revel in the fleeting appreciation we get from random strangers. Most of us leave our profiles on public because we enjoy being seen by others. But…

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