Commitment Issues 101

30s, commitment, love, relationships, single life

Not Adulting Right Now

As a single girl in her 30s, I have to constantly battle the internal and external pressures to settle down and commit to a life of misery. Oops! I mean stability. My bad….

It’s not that I don’t want to get married. I do, someday, to the right person. But here’s the thing about me. The right person for me is not the person who wants a relationship. My dude, if he exists, is not going to send me a “Good morning beautiful” text every single day. He’s not going to dote on me. He’s not going to try to impress or please me. And, he’s certainly not the person who’s looking to settle down. No, no. My guy, wherever he is, if he even exists, he’s the guy who does his thing. He’s the guy who loves me passionately but not possessively. He’s the guy that doesn’t care if…

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Relationship Separate Homes

boyfriend, commitment, couples, divorce, friend zone, friends, girlfriend, growth, love, lovers, marriage, relationships, single

Random Life

I have a question… Can you be in a deep relationship with someone and livein separate homes? “I’m asking for a friend“.


Honestly, how can you keep the sparks flying if you are around each other 24/7?


Lets look at the Cons


  • you will have to explain your every move
  • Having someone energy around you all day will interfere with your own vibrations.
  • The more you guys are around each other the less you are excited to see each other.

I may be speaking from a single mind frame, but on the other hand the fact that I am single may be the reason why I am able to think outside of the box. “shrugs shoulders”.

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The Fair Sex

Catholic, Christianity, Family, God, Hope, Love, suffering

HOPE IN THE STORM

By Supertradmum

By 1699, in legal terms in England, the term “spinster” meant an older unmarried woman. This term was used by the Anglican Church In marriage certificates indicating an unmarried woman. It came to mean older women who chose not to get married or were never asked, or who never fell in love.

Recently, because of circumstances in my life, and for the first time in my life, I have been around quite a few single women over the age of 30. In years past, as a teacher, most of my university and college students were in their 20s, although now and then I would have an older student who was female. Most of my friends are either nine years younger or more than me, placing them in their late 50s or early 60s, or are in their thirties, but married. Some of my friends are older than I…

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Dating Is So Hard!!

African girls don’t ask guys out, Dating, happiness, Lonely, Love, Single life, TOE

TOE's Diary

Been wondering why dating has to be so hard for me when every one else seems to be having it easy. I always feel hyperventilated when I get the question “are you seeing someone?”

I recently asked my friends to tell me why I am single. Majority of them said I don’t go out enough. While others said I don’t put myself out there enough. As a result they set me on a couple of blind dates (I didn’t like) and they signed me up for dating apps (majority of the people I met there were either creepos or misfits) so I took down the apps.

I decided to do things differently 6 months ago when I moved to a new city. I challenged myself to ask 3 guys in the new city out on a date. This is something I always said I was never going to do when…

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The Need for Relationships?

happiness, love, media, modern day, relationships, single, wellbeing

absoellie51

In this modern day society, being single is not a permanent state, but something to be seen as temporary, with an end goal of becoming a part of a relationship. A boy and a girl enter a coffee shop and the automatic assumption of their relation to one another is as boyfriend and girlfriend. In contrast, two “straight” appearing pairs of men and women enter this same coffee shop, and they’re just friends meeting for a drink. Our perception on the world and the society that we live in automatically pairs men and women together as a couple, living up to the expectations that two people must be together. How could both possibly be single and only be friends? It is almost laughable. But what does society seemingly hold against the idea of being single – the term itself being a social construct to differentiate between a romantic and platonic…

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thank you, next — Sexual Innuendo

Happy New Year lovely readers! I’m so eager for twenty-nineteen! Sadly, twenty-eighteen wasn’t really my year. It certainly did me no favours in the relationship department. Granted I can’t complain too much, as I learned a lot. I feel like I’m emotionally equipped, and definitely physically ready for a real, solid relationship this year. In […]

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