Learning How to Grow

fulfillness, happiness, Life

Saturday Night Wine

Growing up, my mother always used to say “life’s a bitch and then you die”.  I know, doesn’t that inspire positivity? The only thing my mother seemed to be passionate about was attempting to be the perfect daughter, mother and wife.  And she was miserable all of the time.  As I started to become more independent in life and pulled away from my family a bit, my mother seemed to build up the time we did share together, to the point where it was impossible for me to ever please her.  And, as a result, she became despondent, disappointed.  The pressure became too much for me and I pushed further and further away from her.

Slowly, I am learning I cannot depend on anyone for my own happiness, just as my mother couldn’t depend on any of us for her happiness.  I think this is a very hard lesson…

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Anxiety and Relationships

anxiety , comfort , couple , happiness , health , mental , mental health , relationship , zone

learn to bloom

More and more people suffer with generalised anxiety disorder (GAD) these days. Like myself, many others tend to distance themselves in order to avoid being hurt or having their issues affecting those who surround us.

Being in a relationship can be a daunting thought or experience. You meet somebody new who knows nothing about you, they don’t know how you behave, act or how you think about things. You soon learn new things about one another and start to feel a connection. You start to love both the good traits and flaws of each other. However, there are times when anxiety gets the best of you. It can be days, weeks or months of feeling like you’re not sure if this was the best idea. Should I have got myself into this situation? Is this a bad time? Have they started to lose the spark or have I?

Chances are…

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Breaking Barriers: Overcoming Social Anxiety and Putting Myself Out There

personal development , relationships , personal growth , networking , communication , social , anxiety , breaking barriers , relationship building , overcoming , social butterfly

Serendipity & Such

I wanted to be a social butterfly, but I was honestly more of a social moth.

By nature, I’ve never really been a fan of people. I don’t want to say I ‘dislike’ or ‘hate’ people, but I’m definitely an introvert that values my solitude. It’s funny to say that, given how talkative I was as a kid. So much so that I didn’t realize that sometimes I would really annoy or bother people (namely my older sister). So rather than a social butterfly, I guess you could say I was a social moth. I was friendly and talkative to the point that I was just overbearing and hard to tolerate. Eventually, I became more concerned with being a burden to someone or annoying them. But instead of finding a proper balance, I ultimately just solved the problem by not initiating conversation with people at all. Even if someone did…

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The Need for Relationships?

happiness, love, media, modern day, relationships, single, wellbeing

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In this modern day society, being single is not a permanent state, but something to be seen as temporary, with an end goal of becoming a part of a relationship. A boy and a girl enter a coffee shop and the automatic assumption of their relation to one another is as boyfriend and girlfriend. In contrast, two “straight” appearing pairs of men and women enter this same coffee shop, and they’re just friends meeting for a drink. Our perception on the world and the society that we live in automatically pairs men and women together as a couple, living up to the expectations that two people must be together. How could both possibly be single and only be friends? It is almost laughable. But what does society seemingly hold against the idea of being single – the term itself being a social construct to differentiate between a romantic and platonic…

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Family Connections

Family, forgiveness, Self-love

Sage Woman Chronicles

Arizona Butterfly

“Forgiveness is the final form of love.” ~ Reinhold Niebuhr

“Forgive me my nonsense, as I also forgive the nonsense of those who think they talk sense.” ~ Robert Frost

During this visit to family for the holidays, we’ve been able to reconnect with my father’s last living brother. It’s been over twenty years since we last saw him, and we’ve all been through lots of life altering experiences. Seeing my uncle again and hearing the stories of his painful experiences has caused me to reflect on relationships and just how complicated they are. Each of us carry wounds, some healed, some still seeping. But for me the meaning of Jesus life, and that of the other great teachers like him, is that we must learn to forgive those who have wounded us, and forgive ourselves for being thoughtless.

When we think of forgiveness, we often think of…

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