Staying Strong When You Miss Them the Most: Coping with Grief During the Holidays

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The Iron Empath

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The title is called “staying strong” but let me be clear. Staying strong does not mean harboring all emotion to get through Christmas dinner without crying. You don’t need to block out, hide from, or deny your grief. Many people wrongly equate “staying strong” with not breaking down in public, speaking emotionlessly or avoiding the topic of grief altogether. But I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to “stay strong” in this way.

Staying strong to me means continuing to be your most authentic self in the midst of loss. This means acknowledging the pain you feel is valid and a part of who you are now. It means if you need to cry at dinner, then that’s not called “breaking down.” That’s a perfectly acceptable testimony of your love for that person.

It’s been 5 years since my mom died and…

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Learning to enjoy time alone

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Walking on broken glass

I find this very hard and I crave the company of others. This week is half term, and each one of my plans has fallen through. So I’m currently sat in my local mcdonalds alone trying to enjoy this time.

I see benefits of it, I really do. Yet, I still miss someone else being there. Even if you just sit in silence with them, it’s comforting to me.

So far today, I have cleared out 3 bin bags of clothes, been to the dy cleaners, been to the charity shop, donated some bedding to rspca and put my car in to be valeted, hence why I am at mcdonalds as I’m waiting for it to be done.

See, I feel to enjoy time alone, I need to love myself, which I don’t. I know my boyfriend will ask me later if I’m going to the gym, and I know…

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Ever Been “Ghosted”? Here’s What to Do!

Ageing, aging, broken heart, Ghosting, happiness, moving on, relationships

Project Happiness: A Practical Guide to Everyday Contentment

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The idea for the little child-ghost with the New Yawk accent was conceived in the 30’s and slowly evolved along the decades from books to comics to a cartoon show in the early 60’s. It was about a delightful ghost. A friendly ghost who wasn’t like the others. He actually wanted to make friends with people—not scare them. He wanted to help others—not hurt them. I loved the Casper cartoons, and you probably did too.

Flash forward to a term we never had to familiarize ourselves with back then—not even on Halloween when we cut three holes into our mother’s old sheets and morphed into little with trick-or-treat bags. The term “ghosting” doesn’t mean any of that today. Instead it refers to a growing phenomenon in a world that is growing increasingly less courteous.

“Ghosting” someone today, means you have an interaction with someone…

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I really don’t mind

allergies, aloneness, family, holiday

Alina’s Blog

I don’t mind being alone.

I don’t mind sitting here writing and watching Doctor who specials.

I don’t mind cooking for myself.

What I dread? Is tomorrow when everyone is going to ask what I did, who I saw, did I have a good holiday?

What do I say?

How do I not be rude and avoid the pity?

I really don’t mind today.

I am dreading tomorrow.

My family knows where I am.

My friends know where I am.

No one wants to invite me over because I have to bring my own food. I would be a third wheel.

So no I really don’t mind at all, being alone. I am dreading tomorrow.

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