Why A Normal Relationship Is So Hard After a Toxic One.

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Perfectly Imperfect Blogg

Toxic relationships are difficult because a lot of time, they don’t start out that way. They start off healthy and good and make you very happy. And the gradual shift isn’t so much caused by the other person, but sometimes two people together just stop being good for each other. And it’s hard to step away from that. 

When you’ve grown with someone then suddenly they become toxic to you, it’s hard to accept “I’d be better off without this person,” when in reality so much of who you’ve become is because of them.

When someone becomes a habit it’s hard to just cut them out of your life.

Anyone who has ever been in a toxic relationship can look back at the person and they aren’t going to say they were these monsters who were horrible. There is a deep rooted love there that a lot of people struggle…

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He’s just not that into you & other revelations

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De Dutch Diaries

Sometimes he’s just not that into you. You send a text hoping for an elaborate reply on how much he misses you. Or at least any reply at all. Instead you’re left with a big fat giant ‘read’ on your Facebook messenger.

Cue social mortification.

I had a melodramatic breakdown about a week ago (which you may have caught on if you read the previous post). But I guess your 20s are just filled with existential dread and crises, one after another after another until you hit 30! I’m presuming they stop by then, right? Hopefully by the time I have my own flat in NYC,  where I will write and live a private life with my dachshund called Jimmy.

So now the emotional tidal wave has flattened out and I’m beginning an upward loop. It’s almost as if I went so far low that I’ve been catapulted to…

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Happiness Is Success

connection, cooperation, development, environment, expectations, happiness, Humanity, Success

Entering The Force-Field

Question: Do you agree with the adage ‘happiness is success’?

Answer: Yes, Happiness is the sign, the “jackpot” of success.

Happiness is a positive feedback, result of fulfilling an all-important goal, fulfilling a great yearning, need.

And since we are social, emotional creatures, the greatest possible happiness we achieve is when we purposefully build positive, mutually supportive and mutually fulfilling Human interconnections in special, closed environments, “laboratories”. There methodically everybody aims at bringing happiness only to the others, above and despite our inherently selfish, egoistic, subjective inclinations using a special, practical educational method.

Then the vibrating tension, resistance in between instinctive egoism and attempted, fulfilled love and bestowal towards others magnifies the happiness achieved, makes us infinitely more sensitive to the positive emotional impressions we receive from our connections!

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Me, or We? You don’t have to chose.

divorce, infidelity, love, marriage, relation, relationships, spouse, trust

Relationships are complicated. They are the most intricate designs we humans take pride in. So many variations, endless possibilities. Yet, due to this very nature relations are susceptible to damages. It takes a life to rebuild it.

When we talk about two individuals, the commitment brings them together. The trust and faith they have for each other build the foundation. On the flip side, relationships flounder when they face distrust, which, unfortunately, is quite common these days. Trust can be lost through rage, lies, violence, unethical activities, drug and alcohol abuse, and sexual infidelity. Trust is the bedrock of what makes relationships work. It is the fundamental process of love and intimacy. When trust goes, what goes with it are safety, security, respect, love, and friendship, replaced by anger, insecurity, anxiety, fear; the aggrieved person becomes like the police, the FBI, and/or the CIA. Life becomes laced with arguments, large…

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