Learning How to Grow

fulfillness, happiness, Life

Saturday Night Wine

Growing up, my mother always used to say “life’s a bitch and then you die”.  I know, doesn’t that inspire positivity? The only thing my mother seemed to be passionate about was attempting to be the perfect daughter, mother and wife.  And she was miserable all of the time.  As I started to become more independent in life and pulled away from my family a bit, my mother seemed to build up the time we did share together, to the point where it was impossible for me to ever please her.  And, as a result, she became despondent, disappointed.  The pressure became too much for me and I pushed further and further away from her.

Slowly, I am learning I cannot depend on anyone for my own happiness, just as my mother couldn’t depend on any of us for her happiness.  I think this is a very hard lesson…

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The Wednesday Rule: Conversations for Succesful Dating

boundaries , commitment , conflict , conversations , dating , love , talk , wednesday

Dating
can have extreme highs and lows. When I take a look back on some of my
relationships that didn’t work out, I noticed one thing that they all have in
common,I was not open about my needs early in the dating process. I was
just a go with the flow type girl and most of the times things didn’t flow my
way. What I’m sharing with you today are
fourconversations that I believe we all
should have at the beginningof the dating process. These
conversations give your possible partner
an understanding of what you are looking for and what they can expect from
you.

COMMITMENT LEVEL

Withsituation-ships on the rise, dating with purpose is very important. I want you to be open and honest with the person you are dating when it comes to the type of relationship you are looking for. When my boyfriend and I started dating…

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Dating Someone with Different Food Lifestyles

chris hansen, compromise, dating, dealbreakers, diet, differences, Food, honeymoon stage, weight, wings

Dating Atlanta with The Fire Jayde

Listen! I might be placing my foot into my mouth right now but at 213 pounds, I don’t even care. I was doing so good while on my healthy eating streak (smoothies, exercising at the gym and drinking plenty of water) but the minute I started dating someone who’s eating habits did not align with mine, the pounds quickly began to add up. I understand that no one forced me to eat but when we went out to eat almost once a week, I lost sight and sight of the “no meat” diet. “Buffalo and Lemon Pepper wings” became my favorite and the weather outdoors became “too cold for me to work out.


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Those were my excuses so let me be and stop judging!


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Why it’s okay to let go of people as you grow

arguments, change, friends, Friendships, growing up, happy

Tales of the Twenty-Somethings

I’ll be the first to admit that change is something I find difficult. Perhaps the fact that I’ve known most of my best friends for over a decade (and I’ve become so used to their constant support, advice and friendship in that time) plays a role in this. I enjoy meeting new people and forming new relationships, however I have become very accustomed to knowing my closest friends will always be there. And I am so very lucky for that.

I find the concept of people growing apart a scary one, because I’m used to sharing my memories of being ten years old with the same girls I’ll meet up for cocktails with now. Even though I’ll always be grateful for that, I’m starting to become aware of the fact that people do change. We’ve all got to grow, mature and find our place in this world as adults, and…

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How long online friendship lasts ?

blogging, love, Thoughts

Scribblers Arena

How long online friendship lasts?One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood.Lucius Annaeus Seneca

It’s a 4.5 minute read,if you have patience proceed..

Before we proceed further let us understand ‘friendship’.

“Friendship is a best ship which can lead you on world tour” unknown

It takes roughly 200 hours to become best friends with someone, according to science. Can you sustain it afterwards ?

Say 6 months ? 1 yr…..3 yrs…..7 yrs…. Or till one of them decides to knock the Heavens door ?

Don’t you think… friendship is a complicated relationship among people ?

It can last from one day to…. life long !

“Friendship isn’t about whom you have known the longest…it’s about who came, and never left your side” unknown.

It is said that true friendship is possible,having similar wavelengths,and the two sharing their true feelings, whether a happy or sad situation…

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Ever Been “Ghosted”? Here’s What to Do!

Ageing, aging, broken heart, Ghosting, happiness, moving on, relationships

Aging Happy

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The idea for the little child-ghost with the New Yawk accent was conceived in the 30’s and slowly evolved along the decades from books to comics to a cartoon show in the early 60’s. It was about a delightful ghost. A friendly ghost who wasn’t like the others. He actually wanted to make friends with people—not scare them. He wanted to help others—not hurt them. I loved the Casper cartoons, and you probably did too.

Flash forward to a term we never had to familiarize ourselves with back then—not even on Halloween when we cut three holes into our mother’s old sheets and morphed into little with trick-or-treat bags. The term “ghosting” doesn’t mean any of that today. Instead it refers to a growing phenomenon in a world that is growing increasingly less courteous.

“Ghosting” someone today, means you have an interaction with someone…

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Happiness Is Success

connection, cooperation, development, environment, expectations, happiness, Humanity, Success

Entering The Force-Field

Question: Do you agree with the adage ‘happiness is success’?

Answer: Yes, Happiness is the sign, the “jackpot” of success.

Happiness is a positive feedback, result of fulfilling an all-important goal, fulfilling a great yearning, need.

And since we are social, emotional creatures, the greatest possible happiness we achieve is when we purposefully build positive, mutually supportive and mutually fulfilling Human interconnections in special, closed environments, “laboratories”. There methodically everybody aims at bringing happiness only to the others, above and despite our inherently selfish, egoistic, subjective inclinations using a special, practical educational method.

Then the vibrating tension, resistance in between instinctive egoism and attempted, fulfilled love and bestowal towards others magnifies the happiness achieved, makes us infinitely more sensitive to the positive emotional impressions we receive from our connections!

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