Breaking Barriers: Overcoming Social Anxiety and Putting Myself Out There

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Serendipity & Such

I wanted to be a social butterfly, but I was honestly more of a social moth.

By nature, I’ve never really been a fan of people. I don’t want to say I ‘dislike’ or ‘hate’ people, but I’m definitely an introvert that values my solitude. It’s funny to say that, given how talkative I was as a kid. So much so that I didn’t realize that sometimes I would really annoy or bother people (namely my older sister). So rather than a social butterfly, I guess you could say I was a social moth. I was friendly and talkative to the point that I was just overbearing and hard to tolerate. Eventually, I became more concerned with being a burden to someone or annoying them. But instead of finding a proper balance, I ultimately just solved the problem by not initiating conversation with people at all. Even if someone did…

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The Need for Relationships?

happiness, love, media, modern day, relationships, single, wellbeing

absoellie51

In this modern day society, being single is not a permanent state, but something to be seen as temporary, with an end goal of becoming a part of a relationship. A boy and a girl enter a coffee shop and the automatic assumption of their relation to one another is as boyfriend and girlfriend. In contrast, two “straight” appearing pairs of men and women enter this same coffee shop, and they’re just friends meeting for a drink. Our perception on the world and the society that we live in automatically pairs men and women together as a couple, living up to the expectations that two people must be together. How could both possibly be single and only be friends? It is almost laughable. But what does society seemingly hold against the idea of being single – the term itself being a social construct to differentiate between a romantic and platonic…

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Break Bread Together

eating together, family, food, meals

Married, Mortgaged & Minivan'd

There are many studies on the importance of family meal time.   For kids and parents the social activity of having a family meal builds closeness, better eating habits, confidence and helps with academics, physical and mental health and overall well-being. My favorite quote on the importance of dining together comes from the late Anthony Bourdain:

“We know, for instance, that there is a direct, inverse relationship between frequency of family meals and social problems. Bluntly stated, members of families who eat together regularly are statistically less likely to stick up liquor stores, blow up meth labs, give birth to crack babies, commit suicide, or make donkey porn. If Little Timmy had just had more meatloaf, he might not have grown up to fill chest freezers with Cub Scout parts.” 

― Anthony Bourdain, Medium Raw: A Bloody Valentine to the World of Food and the People Who Cook 

However, in a…

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Teamwork and reflective practice in the family.

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The Behaviourist Guy

Imagine a company is going through some economic challenges and it comes to the point that the only way to survive is to make some immediate changes. So the Chief Executive Officer gets all the ten managers together for a meeting. You happen to be one of the managers.

One by one, he comes down the line asking what could be done to have this company, and by extension jobs saved. After the ninth manager, here comes your turn. With all eyes on you, the question is asked: “What can we do to save this company and your job?”

With a confident smile on your face you blurt out: “I have absolutely no idea!”

Now, if you were the last one that the company was depending on to come up with a good idea, then, there goes the jobs and the many lives depending on the employee.

Hi, my name…

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Family Connections

Family, forgiveness, Self-love

Sage Woman Chronicles

Arizona Butterfly

“Forgiveness is the final form of love.” ~ Reinhold Niebuhr

“Forgive me my nonsense, as I also forgive the nonsense of those who think they talk sense.” ~ Robert Frost

During this visit to family for the holidays, we’ve been able to reconnect with my father’s last living brother. It’s been over twenty years since we last saw him, and we’ve all been through lots of life altering experiences. Seeing my uncle again and hearing the stories of his painful experiences has caused me to reflect on relationships and just how complicated they are. Each of us carry wounds, some healed, some still seeping. But for me the meaning of Jesus life, and that of the other great teachers like him, is that we must learn to forgive those who have wounded us, and forgive ourselves for being thoughtless.

When we think of forgiveness, we often think of…

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Me, or We? You don’t have to chose.

divorce, infidelity, love, marriage, relation, relationships, spouse, trust

Relationships are complicated. They are the most intricate designs we humans take pride in. So many variations, endless possibilities. Yet, due to this very nature relations are susceptible to damages. It takes a life to rebuild it.

When we talk about two individuals, the commitment brings them together. The trust and faith they have for each other build the foundation. On the flip side, relationships flounder when they face distrust, which, unfortunately, is quite common these days. Trust can be lost through rage, lies, violence, unethical activities, drug and alcohol abuse, and sexual infidelity. Trust is the bedrock of what makes relationships work. It is the fundamental process of love and intimacy. When trust goes, what goes with it are safety, security, respect, love, and friendship, replaced by anger, insecurity, anxiety, fear; the aggrieved person becomes like the police, the FBI, and/or the CIA. Life becomes laced with arguments, large…

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CLASHING THOUGHTS..

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poised avian

People always experience conflict between their various thoughts on the idea of love. Many of us remain in dilemma for several years before coming to a stable conclusion. It is not only mind that performs, but their is something more that takes part in decision making, and that’s Conscience. Let me reflect on it how:

Is it love or just an infatuation?

Is it real or just my imagination?

Will you be my future or my history?

Will you confide in me or remain a mystery?

Is it right or not in conformity?

Is it material or has its transcendentality?

Will you be dominant or submissive?

Will you be supportive or play the contradictive?

No matter where it leads..

but there is one thing that my conscience pleads;-

”It is hard to find a man who is True,

So, don’t go changing old for the new”.

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