Words that hurt

bereavement , death , grief , meaning , mourning , purpose , soulmates , widowed

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Words that hurt: happiness, joy.

Phrases that hurt: ‘Rich would want you to be happy’, ‘I hope you’re enjoying…’, ‘May you find peace’, ‘this will help you heal’, ‘try and find something to smile about today’.

Phrases that help: ‘tell me about Rich’, ‘don’t hold it in’, ‘just be you’, ‘you are hurting’, ‘I wish I’d known him’.

And the best way to ask after someone experiencing profound bereavement? – ‘how is today?’ If you ask ‘how are you?’, then frankly you’re not really thinking about the person in front of you or at the other end of the phone. How the f*** do you think I am? Is the way we want to respond. But instead, of late, I just don’t bother responding at all. Because if they can’t imagine what the devastation of loss like this might feel like, and I haven’t got the energy to explain, even…

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“Doing My Thing” Means Loving My Man

dating, happiness, life, live your best life, love, marriage, psychology, relationships, romance

I hate when people say, “Just do your own thing!” without understanding that being one with a man is “my thing”. That is my chosen purpose in this world. That is where my ultimate happiness comes from… as well as all the things that are worth even more than happiness.

Not everyone can find happiness on their own, and that’s fine. Not everyone who can find happiness on their own is content with it. Some people want more; the infinite fulfillment that comes with merging with another.

If I’m not seeking/experiencing love with a man, then I am not “doing my thing”; because that ismy thing.

And lastly, once you’ve become one with a person, “their thing” is “your thing”, and yours is theirs.

Stop it with the isolationist bullshit. Everyone’s “thing” should be finding and basking in true romantic love.

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