The families where silence is a norm are the most unhappy

Keywords: fara categorie , assertive , attitude , behavior , being a parent , being and adult , being loved , comfort zone , communication , freedom , freedom of speech , parenting , relationships , respect , speaking your mind

I want to have my own children and I am sure somewhere many want them too. I want my own family. We all want to make a better job when having our own families than our parents did. Do you want to behave 100% like your dad? Do you really want to be a copy of your mom? The tough job has to be done before engaging in relationships because unsaid things affect marriages, children, lives. It is not fair towards the future generations for the trauma to be passed on by us. By denying our own freedom we deny it to our future lover and children. We can’t progress inside a relationship more than we did in our family of origin. When at the family dinner the soup of silence will be replaced with a glass of freedom of speech, the table will change. There might be a few earthquakes and attempts to resist the change. But if the effort leads to replacing an old menu which made everyone sick inside, it’s worth skipping that darn soup. You’ve been eating it for far too long anyway.

https://maryhasnolamb.wordpress.com/2020/11/04/lets-both-be-free-in-our-family

Words that hurt

bereavement , death , grief , meaning , mourning , purpose , soulmates , widowed

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Words that hurt: happiness, joy.

Phrases that hurt: ‘Rich would want you to be happy’, ‘I hope you’re enjoying…’, ‘May you find peace’, ‘this will help you heal’, ‘try and find something to smile about today’.

Phrases that help: ‘tell me about Rich’, ‘don’t hold it in’, ‘just be you’, ‘you are hurting’, ‘I wish I’d known him’.

And the best way to ask after someone experiencing profound bereavement? – ‘how is today?’ If you ask ‘how are you?’, then frankly you’re not really thinking about the person in front of you or at the other end of the phone. How the f*** do you think I am? Is the way we want to respond. But instead, of late, I just don’t bother responding at all. Because if they can’t imagine what the devastation of loss like this might feel like, and I haven’t got the energy to explain, even…

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The Wednesday Rule: Conversations for Succesful Dating

boundaries , commitment , conflict , conversations , dating , love , talk , wednesday

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Dating
can have extreme highs and lows. When I take a look back on some of my
relationships that didn’t work out, I noticed one thing that they all have in
common,I was not open about my needs early in the dating process. I was
just a go with the flow type girl and most of the times things didn’t flow my
way. What I’m sharing with you today are
fourconversations that I believe we all
should have at the beginningof the dating process. These
conversations give your possible partner
an understanding of what you are looking for and what they can expect from
you.

COMMITMENT LEVEL

Withsituation-ships on the rise, dating with purpose is very important. I want you to be open and honest with the person you are dating when it comes to the type of relationship you are looking for. When my boyfriend and I started dating…

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